Pocket Full of Singles
Pocket Full of Singles

So I haven’t blogged about my single life in about a year! Well it’s been some changes but not many. I’m still single, but I’m content now days. Why you ask, because it just seem like marriage is a lot of responsibility! And the Lord is preparing me for it, so I’m not going to rush it!

But any way, I come here to vent on issues of singleness instead of facebook….as if they won’t see this post! But I guess It’s different because people have to actually look to find this. Hopefully a young lady….A CERTAIN YOUNG LADY.

And to you…I say if you do find this, I want you to know that I miss just being able to hear your voice, even if it is only once or twice a week! I wish I could call you…I wish you would call me. I wonder do you forgive me? I wonder if you still feel the same way about me at our last conversation? I hope not! I still feel the way I did…I dont suspect that will change anytime soon…although I have learned to accept it. I’m saying this hoping you go through my FB, and just happen to see this link, and read this….you know who you are….you still have my heart….

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Choosy Lover

Wassup wit it? I got a quick question…when you gave your life to Christ (assuming you have) did you choose when he touched your heart? How about did you choose your path for you or choose what gifts you were given for the edification of the Body? Better yet are you going to choose the day that you meet the Lord? Did you choose anything about your salvation? How much power do you have to have to choose something about your salvation. As a believer aren’t we suppose to give up control of making our own decisions and allow the new characteristics of Christ and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to determine what Gods will for your life is? Or do we Trust that God created the universe some 13 Billion years ago (says scientist) create the heavens and earth, put earth in a realm close enough to the sun to be warm but not so close that we burn, put water, land, all creeping things and flying birds, creating Adam and Eve and gave them full dominion over everything, allowed us to be disconnected from him because of sin, came down in the form of man as Jesus because he knew our need for a savior, created a perfect after life for us after we completely delete satan, all of the miracles for you to not trust in him to find you a mate? Let me give you the short version of that question, you trust God for everything but a spouse? Im saying though, just keep it one-hunded..and I am speaking to the ladies right now. The ones I’m speaking on are on fire for God! Im seeing fruit everywhere! Ya’ll are loving on the Lord, trying your best to be obedient, and having full trust in him…EXCEPT when it comes to finding a mate! That didn’t even sound right did it? LOL! I know that’s because how it sounded wasn’t right. Ladies well let me rephrase that, some of the ladies I know seem that they are only interested in the same things in a man that the world is, and I have to tell you, that is the very reason that you are still single! And I’m not speaking as if I am some type of relationship guru, I’m just saying it’s obvious! I had a convo with a young lady in a social setting with about 25 of us. I would say 8 men, and the rest women, and you know what singles talk about when we get together…marriage…lol go figure. Anyway in the heat of the conversation she says “Im sure that all yall are great men of God, and are capable of leading a woman effectively, but I could never be with any of ya’ll cuz my mate will have to be 6’2”! HUH! LOL! WHAT?!? I had a field day to say the least! That convo was about 2 years ago, and till this day she is still single….And that is because…she is….a choosy lover.

According to the word of God, and everyone female I talk to pulls this one out of her sleeve…God said he would give me the desires of my heart….LOL….LOL! That one cracks me up. I will agree with you, but first lets put this in perspective. Being saved is being born again….being born again is becoming a new creature(2 corinthians 5:17). When we become a new creature we let go of OUR ways and pick up Christ ways. So once we pick up Christ ways, and adapt to his heart and way of thinking, he will give us the desires of our heart because we finally want what he wants….not what we want!

And in saying that Im sorry baby girl, Christ may not want you to have a dude that is 6’2! Just face it, It is not up to you! So as long has you are holding on to that, you may be single until you settle for less in a man that is not saved, or you change your way of thinking. Im not pointing fingers because it was shown to me first hand! Even after I got saved I swore I would never be with a woman that had more than 2 kids! That was my limit, until I was in love, and engaged to a woman that had 3! He showed me…lol. So till this day, I don’t tell God what I wont except. I know the woman he has for me will be 1 thing for sure…and that is saved! Because I know he’s not going to send me a woman who is unequally yoked. The previous example was just 1 of many conversations where woman seem to still be searching for the wrong thing in a mate, and is letting it determine who she will make herself available to, and baby girl as long as you thinking that way you are going to lose! And then have the nerve to be always talking about ain’t no good men or they all taken….naw you just aint taking the time to look passed appearance. And some woman make appearance such a big deal as if marriage is even for us! Thats right, imma blow your mind real quick…marriage is not even for our benefit. (all the women reading this:What? are you serious?) Yes ma! marriage is for the advancement of the Kingdom Agenda….not for the physical attractions of your lust…and I’m talking to myself on that 1, because there is nothing else I would love to pray for that the Lord would actually give me which is either Sanaa Lathan, or Vanessa Simmons….lol! But anyway Ladies please ask the Lord to grow you into maturing into how he is thinking, and not you! Because you holding on to being a choosy lover, is not going to sway the love he chooses for you.

Chev-Dev - Nissi

Perception-Pocket full of single blog

im mad sleepy right now, but got alot to say…so imma make it quik. Why did I just get accused of trying to “holla” at 5 women that all hang in the same group? Like for real…I was just as surprised as you! When me and my friends get together…we are as transparent as ever, well we try to be. So we are all open books, and every body discusses whats going on in their life all the same. So when it came to me…it is always a question of who I got my eye on. And there is always a credible answer. So tonight it was: so Chev how many of us that hang in this group have you tried to talk to? And I said 1, because that is all that I tried to holla at, and then out of the blue, the women that accused me all shouted in dis belief as if I was lying…and proceeded to tell me that I have tried to talk to them at 1 point in time….and I was flabergasted! Because I am the type of dude that when I holla….I HOLLA! there will be no mistake that Im HOLLAAIN! And they proceeded to say Chev…when this happened and you said this, and Chev you was always in my face, and Chev she said you said this to her….Im like FA REAL? Girl I have never came on to you a day in my life! And to you…what did I actually say that gave you the notion I was trying to holla? And after about 5 minutes of trying to defend myself, it just came off like people were just flat out lying on me! And that urks the HELL out of me! I think that is pride issue that I have, but don’t be lying on me! And I dont no the motive why they would all say that…like where are yall getting this from? I mean they was coming up with names out of the blue of females that i dont even know, or have’nt even talk to before! It was just so surprising to me….like it is funny now that im looking back on an hour ago! What i have noticed about some single women is that since they single and miserable, they wanna make everyone else seem single and miserable, and don’t want nobody to prosper past them, so the only motive I can think of is for someone to want to taint my character, so that I will seem un-desirable…if that makes sense. If it doesn’t let me add that the 1 woman that I am interested in was there listening to all these accusations…And I think that is why it was magnified so much…cuz all the women accusing me know Im interested in her! But any way..lets get to the subject. I think that the reason that They were accusing me of that is because of how they “perceived” my interaction with them was. Before I was saved, I was an aggressive type of nigga….and I can still be that way. So I think their perception of me being aggressive towards them in communication came off as me trying to holla. And that is why I was asking specifically what did I say to you….was I just being flurtatious or did I actually say I’m interested in you, and we should go out sometimes, and I wanna be your man. But I didnt say that to any of my accusers, so Im like where are they getting this from. But I think once people have in their mind who you are, that perception of you will never change…..So is that my fault?

Perception-Pocket full of single blog

im mad sleepy right now, but got alot to say…so imma make it quik. Why did I just get accused of trying to “holla” at 5 women that all hang in the same group? Like for real…I was just as surprised as you! When me and my friends get together…we are as transparent as ever, well we try to be. So we are all open books, and every body discusses whats going on in their life all the same. So when it came to me…it is always a question of who I got my eye on. And there is always a credible answer. So tonight it was: so Chev how many of us that hang in this group have you tried to talk to? And I said 1, because that is all that I tried to holla at, and then out of the blue, the women that accused me all shouted in dis belief as if I was lying…and proceeded to tell me that I have tried to talk to them at 1 point in time….and I was flabergasted! Because I am the type of dude that when I holla….I HOLLA! there will be no mistake that Im HOLLAAIN! And they proceeded to say Chev…when this happened and you said this, and Chev you was always in my face, and Chev she said you said this to her….Im like FA REAL? Girl I have never came on to you a day in my life! And to you…what did I actually say that gave you the notion I was trying to holla? And after about 5 minutes of trying to defend myself, it just came off like people were just flat out lying on me! And that urks the HELL out of me! I think that is pride issue that I have, but don’t be lying on me! And I dont no the motive why they would all say that…like where are yall getting this from? I mean they was coming up with names out of the blue of females that i dont even know, or have’nt even talk to before! It was just so surprising to me….like it is funny now that im looking back on an hour ago! What i have noticed about some single women is that since they single and miserable, they wanna make everyone else seem single and miserable, and don’t want nobody to prosper past them, so the only motive I can think of is for someone to want to taint my character, so that I will seem un-desirable…if that makes sense. If it doesn’t let me add that the 1 woman that I am interested in was there listening to all these accusations…And I think that is why it was magnified so much…cuz all the women accusing me know Im interested in her! But any way..lets get to the subject. I think that the reason that They were accusing me of that is because of how they “perceived” my interaction with them was. Before I was saved, I was an aggressive type of nigga….and I can still be that way. So I think their perception of me being aggressive towards them in communication came off as me trying to holla. And that is why I was asking specifically what did I say to you….was I just being flurtatious or did I actually say I’m interested in you, and we should go out sometimes, and I wanna be your man. But I didnt say that to any of my accusers, so Im like where are they getting this from. But I think once people have in their mind who you are, that perception of you will never change…..So is that my fault?

Pocket full of Singles Blog-Mid week

I wanna fornicate!

Wassup wit it Singles? You know being a Christian calls for us to bear fruit. And 1 Characteristic of Christ that we are to inherit is transparency. So this is me keeping it 100 wit you! Man its been 8 long months since I’ve had sex! And that seems to be the going rate for me. For the last 5 years I have been able to abstain for about 8 months give or take a month. And now Im at that point were when I wake up, the mission of fornication is at the forefront of my mind. It has never been an issue for me to make fornication come to pass, so the first thing I do is get up make sure when I prepare to go to school Im fresh to def, on a mission to find the next young woman i’m  going to get with. So now im in class…not focusing on the lecture, and focusing on this young lady sitting in front of me…almost like a predator! its just something in our DNA that says tackle the gazzel! I dont know where we get it its just something in our DNA that says tackle the gazzel! Now she is the 1 im focusing on because we have spoken, laughed and communicated before, just not when im at my most animalistic! So while im whispering back and forth to her, one of my homies instant messages me on fb and we say what we have to say, and at the end of the message he says “so is everything else good with you”? And that singles is what you call God being an on time God! Because im mature enough in the faith to know that the body of Christ is available to us for a reason! Now 1 year ago I wouldnt have answered that message cuz I know the main focus of the convo after that would be to talk me out of my current attempt to holla at the young lady. But since I am mature, I know that is what I needed at the time. Dont get me wrong my flesh wants to see how quick I could get her to the crib, but the righteousness in me doesnt want no part of that! So now I will rely on Jesus to keep my focus off of her and stay busy throughout the day to not get any more bright ideas about it again to any other female in any other of my classes. 

This is the most difficult part about being single in my opinion…temptation! Before coming to the Lord sex was like eating! it was just something I did, and now its like Im on a strict diet….but I love to eat! I dont know how I have been able to go this long with out it…well yes I do…the Lord keeping me, I just pray that he continues to keep me….because now im off to another class full of woman with the only 1 thing on my mind….which is to fornicate!

Pocket full of Singles Blog-Mid week

I wanna fornicate!

Wassup wit it Singles? You know being a Christian calls for us to bear fruit. And 1 Characteristic of Christ that we are to inherit is transparency. So this is me keeping it 100 wit you! Man its been 8 long months since I’ve had sex! And that seems to be the going rate for me. For the last 5 years I have been able to abstain for about 8 months give or take a month. And now Im at that point were every morning I wake up the first thing I fantasize about is having an all out freak session with what ever woman I have been talking with or hanging out with within that weeks time frame! It has never been an issue for me to make my fantasy’s come true, so the first thing I do is get up make sure when I prepare to go to school Im fresh to def, on a mission to find the next young woman i’m  going to get with. So now im in class…not focusing on the lecture, and focusing on this young lady sitting in front of me…almost like a predator! its just something in our DNA that says tackle the gazzel! I dont know where we get it its just something in our DNA that says tackle the gazzel! Now she is the 1 im focusing on because we have spoken, laughed and communicated before, just not when im at my most animalistic! So while im whispering back and forth to her, one of my homies instant messages me on fb and we say what we have to say, and at the end of the message he says “so is everything else good with you”? And that singles is what you call God being an on time God! Because im mature enough in the faith to know that the body of Christ is available to us for a reason! Now 1 year ago I wouldnt have answered that message cuz I know the main focus of the convo after that would be to talk me out of my current attempt to holla at the young lady. But since I am mature, I know that is what I needed at the time. Dont get me wrong my flesh wants to see how quick I could get her to the crib, but the righteousness in me doesnt want no part of that! So now I will rely on Jesus to keep my focus off of her and stay busy throughout the day to not get any more bright ideas about it again to any other female in any other of my classes. 

This is the most difficult part about being single in my opinion…temptation! Before coming to the Lord sex was like eating! it was just something I did, and now its like Im on a strict diet….but I love to eat! I dont know how I have been able to go this long with out it…well yes I do…the Lord keeping me, I just pray that he continues to keep me….because now im off to another class full of woman with the only 1 thing on my mind….which is to fornicate!

Pocket full of Singles Blog

We Celebrating!

Praise God! I usually don’t do singles events at other churches, there is no specific reason I just don’t. But tonight I was invited to an event at another church by a very special young lady and if it was’nt for her asking me to go, I wouldn’t have. In fact satan think he slick, cuz when I was parking I got sleepy, hungry, and didnt want to go in at all! But I did and Im glad because we had a good time. It’s interesting how the word of God is taught to you at your home church by your Shepard(s) and you don’t want to trust anyones teaching except theirs, and then you go somewhere else and it is taught just as sound just in a different way! That is when you know the Holy Spirit is involved! And just from my experience that let’s me know that the single walk that I’m on right now is not one of feeling or emotion, but one that is ordered by God!

Tonight we talked about celebrating our singleness, and accepting it as a gift all while marketing yourself for marriage. And because of where I eat at, my Pastors teach on singleness alot, so when I was hearing the sermon, I was already seasoned in the direction the conversation was going, and I was anxious to here how it was going to be brought from another Pastor. Being single is a gift, it may not feel like a gift because the majority of who we or who I know is married, and we may feel pressure to marry, but it is truly a gift. And since marriage is also a gift you have to ask yourself, do you control who gives you gifts and what type of gifts they give? The answer is no, in fact if someone gave you a gift, and you said you didnt like it can you give me another, you probably just talked yourself out of that gift. Is that how we do the Lord when it comes to our gift of singleness. I dont know about yall, but even before hearing the sermon tonight, I havent been mad about my gift because like other gifts you really dont like, you will find how to appreciate it, and love that gift. So how can we appreciate the gift of being single you ask? Simple to be the best single possible according to the gift giver…The Lord! something my Pastor taught on 1 Sunday about being an effective single in the Kingdom Agenda was that the Lord is building his house with each congregation, and when you build a house, after the foundation is laid (which is Jesus) he uses SINGLE pieces of wood to start building. You start laying down SINGLE pieces of plywood for the floor….so forth and so on. So he is in a sense using singles to further the Kingdom Agenda. Singles have our place, just as those who are married have theirs in advancing the Kingdom Agenda. And what the sermon tonight was about was knowing that the Lord has us single for a reason and to embrace that….not only embrace that but celebrate it. We are to celebrate it in the spiritual by getting close to God, being still and listening to God so that he may direct our paths, and celebrate it in the physical by just enjoying ourselves! Because even thought I would love to be married now, there are alot of things that would change in my life, and not all of them are good. It would be some things that I would have to adjust to. Right now I do what I want, spend how and on what I want, talk to and hang out with who I want, go and come as I want, clean up when I want etc. I could actually leave town right now, and not call no one for the next 2 weeks, and come home and it be all good. And just living like that for as long as I have, to one day being married, and have to explain and ask, and consult, it would be a major change for me. Now dont get me wrong, the pay off of being united with the woman the Lord has for me is well worth it…but it would still be a process. Also to add to it, when you know what your calling on your life is, and you know your purpose, you cant just marry anyone! You have to understand that the Lord uses marriage to further and advance the Kingdom, so although we benefit from marriage, it’s primary function is to give glory to Christ through the ministry that the marriage is taking on. Let’s Go to creation 101 in Genesis when Adam was here with the Lord in the garden of Eden he say attend it, and eat from it (except the 1 tree). And as Adam attended to the garden it grew and grew until it was to large for Adam alone to attend. So he says I will make a helper suitable for you and that is when the Lord made all the beast of the earth, crawling creatures, and flying birds. He told Adam to name all of them, so he did. And when the Lord was done, he says there is still not a helpmate suitable, and thats when he put him to sleep and took his rib. And even when Eve came about she was with the Lord before Adam awoke. So for us men, we need to be mature enough to know what job the Lord has for us to do, and when we are working diligently to increase, and it gets to the point of needing help with the calling on our life, then he will provide our Eve. And for the single women, you have to know how to be with God without your Adam, so when the Lord wakes your Adam up and he sees you, you’ll know how to be the woman of God to him, and effectively support and be a suitable helper for him in what ever ministry the Lord placed on his life. So fellas we have to choose wisely! We have to choose according to what the Lord needs from us. And that is why as many times that I dont like being single, at the end of the day I am grateful because I want to please the Lord. And if the reason I am single is because he is increasing me…then I’m all for it. And with that being said…I see him working! I mean literally just today I heard some news that blew my mind about where the Lord has my ministry going, and that lets me know that my ministry is getting to the point of needing my helpmate…And I will say Lord, I’m ready for my Eve!

In all, It was great fellowshipping with others that I don’t normally kik it with, and just meeting new people. I appreciated the sermon tonight! Its like the food I ate tonight was a great addition to the full chorus meal that I get at home!

Pocket full of Singles Blog

We Celebrating!

Praise God! I usually don’t do singles events at other churches, there is no specific reason I just don’t. But tonight I was invited to an event at another church by a very special young lady and if it was’nt for her asking me to go, I wouldn’t have. In fact satan think he slick, cuz when I was parking I got sleepy, hungry, and didnt want to go in at all! But I did and Im glad because we had a good time. It’s interesting how the word of God is taught to you at your home church by your Shepard(s) and you don’t want to trust anyones teaching except theirs, and then you go somewhere else and it is taught just as sound just in a different way! That is when you know the Holy Spirit is involved! And just from my experience that let’s me know that the single walk that I’m on right now is not one of feeling or emotion, but one that is ordered by God!

Tonight we talked about celebrating our singleness, and accepting it as a gift all while marketing yourself for marriage. And because of where I eat at, my Pastors teach on singleness alot, so when I was hearing the sermon, I was already seasoned in the direction the conversation was going, and I was anxious to here how it was going to be brought from another Pastor. Being single is a gift, it may not feel like a gift because the majority of who we or who I know is married, and we may feel pressure to marry, but it is truly a gift. And since marriage is also a gift you have to ask yourself, do you control who gives you gifts and what type of gifts they give? The answer is no, in fact if someone gave you a gift, and you said you didnt like it can you give me another, you probably just talked yourself out of that gift. Is that how we do the Lord when it comes to our gift of singleness. I dont know about yall, but even before hearing the sermon tonight, I havent been mad about my gift because like other gifts you really dont like, you will find how to appreciate it, and love that gift. So how can we appreciate the gift of being single you ask? Simple to be the best single possible according to the gift giver…The Lord! something my Pastor taught on 1 Sunday about being an effective single in the Kingdom Agenda was that the Lord is building his house with each congregation, and when you build a house, after the foundation is laid (which is Jesus) he uses SINGLE pieces of wood to start building. You start laying down SINGLE pieces of plywood for the floor….so forth and so on. So he is in a sense using singles to further the Kingdom Agenda. Singles have our place, just as those who are married have theirs in advancing the Kingdom Agenda. And what the sermon tonight was about was knowing that the Lord has us single for a reason and to embrace that….not only embrace that but celebrate it. We are to celebrate it in the spiritual by getting close to God, being still and listening to God so that he may direct our paths, and celebrate it in the physical by just enjoying ourselves! Because even thought I would love to be married now, there are alot of things that would change in my life, and not all of them are good. It would be some things that I would have to adjust to. Right now I do what I want, spend how and on what I want, talk to and hang out with who I want, go and come as I want, clean up when I want etc. I could actually leave town right now, and not call no one for the next 2 weeks, and come home and it be all good. And just living like that for as long as I have, to one day being married, and have to explain and ask, and consult, it would be a major change for me. Now dont get me wrong, the pay off of being united with the woman the Lord has for me is well worth it…but it would still be a process. Also to add to it, when you know what your calling on your life is, and you know your purpose, you cant just marry anyone! You have to understand that the Lord uses marriage to further and advance the Kingdom, so although we benefit from marriage, it’s primary function is to give glory to Christ through the ministry that the marriage is taking on. Let’s Go to creation 101 in Genesis when Adam was here with the Lord in the garden of Eden he say attend it, and eat from it (except the 1 tree). And as Adam attended to the garden it grew and grew until it was to large for Adam alone to attend. So he says I will make a helper suitable for you and that is when the Lord made all the beast of the earth, crawling creatures, and flying birds. He told Adam to name all of them, so he did. And when the Lord was done, he says there is still not a helpmate suitable, and thats when he put him to sleep and took his rib. And even when Eve came about she was with the Lord before Adam awoke. So for us men, we need to be mature enough to know what job the Lord has for us to do, and when we are working diligently to increase, and it gets to the point of needing help with the calling on our life, then he will provide our Eve. And for the single women, you have to know how to be with God without your Adam, so when the Lord wakes your Adam up and he sees you, you’ll know how to be the woman of God to him, and effectively support and be a suitable helper for him in what ever ministry the Lord placed on his life. So fellas we have to choose wisely! We have to choose according to what the Lord needs from us. And that is why as many times that I dont like being single, at the end of the day I am grateful because I want to please the Lord. And if the reason I am single is because he is increasing me…then I’m all for it. And with that being said…I see him working! I mean literally just today I heard some news that blew my mind about where the Lord has my ministry going, and that lets me know that my ministry is getting to the point of needing my helpmate…And I will say Lord, I’m ready for my Eve!

In all, It was great fellowshipping with others that I don’t normally kik it with, and just meeting new people. I appreciated the sermon tonight! Its like the food I ate tonight was a great addition to the full chorus meal that I get at home!

Pocket full of Singles Blog

We Celebrating!

Praise God! I usually don’t do singles events at other churches, there is no specific reason I just don’t. But tonight I was invited to an event at another church by a very special young lady and if it was’nt for her asking me to go, I wouldn’t have. In fact satan think he slick, cuz when I was parking I got sleepy, hungry, and didnt want to go in at all! But I did and Im glad because we had a good time. It’s interesting how the word of God is taught to you at your home church by your Shepard(s) and you don’t want to trust anyones teaching except theirs, and then you go somewhere else and it is taught just as sound just in a different way! That is when you know the Holy Spirit is involved! And just from my experience that let’s me know that the single walk that I’m on right now is not one of feeling or emotion, but one that is ordered by God!

Tonight we talked about celebrating our singleness, and accepting it as a gift all while marketing yourself for marriage. And because of where I eat at, my Pastors teach on singleness alot, so when I was hearing the sermon, I was already seasoned in the direction the conversation was going, and I was anxious to here how it was going to be brought from another Pastor. Being single is a gift, it may not feel like a gift because the majority of who we or who I know is married, and we may feel pressure to marry, but it is truly a gift. And since marriage is also a gift you have to ask yourself, do you control who gives you gifts and what type of gifts they give? The answer is no, in fact if someone gave you a gift, and you said you didnt like it can you give me another, you probably just talked yourself out of that gift. Is that how we do the Lord when it comes to our gift of singleness. I dont know about yall, but even before hearing the sermon tonight, I havent been mad about my gift because like other gifts you really dont like, you will find how to appreciate it, and love that gift. So how can we appreciate the gift of being single you ask? Simple to be the best single possible according to the gift giver…The Lord! something my Pastor taught on 1 Sunday about being an effective single in the Kingdom Agenda was that the Lord is building his house with each congregation, and when you build a house, after the foundation is laid (which is Jesus) he uses SINGLE pieces of wood to start building. You start laying down SINGLE pieces of plywood for the floor….so forth and so on. So he is in a sense using singles to further the Kingdom Agenda. Singles have our place, just as those who are married have theirs in advancing the Kingdom Agenda. And what the sermon tonight was about was knowing that the Lord has us single for a reason and to embrace that….not only embrace that but celebrate it. We are to celebrate it in the spiritual by getting close to God, being still and listening to God so that he may direct our paths, and celebrate it in the physical by just enjoying ourselves! Because even thought I would love to be married now, there are alot of things that would change in my life, and not all of them are good. It would be some things that I would have to adjust to. Right now I do what I want, spend how and on what I want, talk to and hang out with who I want, go and come as I want, clean up when I want etc. I could actually leave town right now, and not call no one for the next 2 weeks, and come home and it be all good. And just living like that for as long as I have, to one day being married, and have to explain and ask, and consult, it would be a major change for me. Now dont get me wrong, the pay off of being united with the woman the Lord has for me is well worth it…but it would still be a process. Also to add to it, when you know what your calling on your life is, and you know your purpose, you cant just marry anyone! You have to understand that the Lord uses marriage to further and advance the Kingdom, so although we benefit from marriage, it’s primary function is to give glory to Christ through the ministry that the marriage is taking on. Let’s Go to creation 101 in Genesis when Adam was here with the Lord in the garden of Eden he say attend it, and eat from it (except the 1 tree). And as Adam attended to the garden it grew and grew until it was to large for Adam alone to attend. So he says I will make a helper suitable for you and that is when the Lord made all the beast of the earth, crawling creatures, and flying birds. He told Adam to name all of them, so he did. And when the Lord was done, he says there is still not a helpmate suitable, and thats when he put him to sleep and took his rib. And even when Eve came about she was with the Lord before Adam awoke. So for us men, we need to be mature enough to know what job the Lord has for us to do, and when we are working diligently to increase, and it gets to the point of needing help with the calling on our life, then he will provide our Eve. And for the single women, you have to know how to be with God without your Adam, so when the Lord wakes your Adam up and he sees you, you’ll know how to be the woman of God to him, and effectively support and be a suitable helper for him in what ever ministry the Lord placed on his life. So fellas we have to choose wisely! We have to choose according to what the Lord needs from us. And that is why as many times that I dont like being single, at the end of the day I am grateful because I want to please the Lord. And if the reason I am single is because he is increasing me…then I’m all for it. And with that being said…I see him working! I mean literally just today I heard some news that blew my mind about where the Lord has my ministry going, and that lets me know that my ministry is getting to the point of needing my helpmate…And I will say Lord, I’m ready for my Eve!

In all, It was great fellowshipping with others that I don’t normally kik it with, and just meeting new people. I appreciated the sermon tonight! Its like the food I ate tonight was a great addition to the full chorus meal that I get at home!

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Choosy Lover

Wassup wit it? I got a quick question…when you gave your life to Christ (assuming you have) did you choose when he touched your heart? How about did you choose your path for you or choose what gifts you were given for the edification of the Body? Better yet are you going to choose the day that you meet the Lord? Did you choose anything about your salvation? How much power do you have to have to choose something about your salvation. As a believer aren’t we suppose to give up control of making our own decisions and allow the new characteristics of Christ and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to determine what Gods will for your life is? Or do we Trust that God created the universe some 13 Billion years ago (says scientist) create the heavens and earth, put earth in a realm close enough to the sun to be warm but not so close that we burn, put water, land, all creeping things and flying birds, creating Adam and Eve and gave them full dominion over everything, allowed us to be disconnected from him because of sin, came down in the form of man as Jesus because he knew our need for a savior, created a perfect after life for us after we completely delete satan, all of the miracles for you to not trust in him to find you a mate? Let me give you the short version of that question, you trust God for everything but a spouse? Im saying though, just keep it one-hunded..and I am speaking to the ladies right now. The ones I’m speaking on are on fire for God! Im seeing fruit everywhere! Ya’ll are loving on the Lord, trying your best to be obedient, and having full trust in him…EXCEPT when it comes to finding a mate! That didn’t even sound right did it? LOL! I know that’s because how it sounded wasn’t right. Ladies well let me rephrase that, some of the ladies I know seem that they are only interested in the same things in a man that the world is, and I have to tell you, that is the very reason that you are still single! And I’m not speaking as if I am some type of relationship guru, I’m just saying it’s obvious! I had a convo with a young lady in a social setting with about 25 of us. I would say 8 men, and the rest women, and you know what singles talk about when we get together…marriage…lol go figure. Anyway in the heat of the conversation she says “Im sure that all yall are great men of God, and are capable of leading a woman effectively, but I could never be with any of ya’ll cuz my mate will have to be 6’2”! HUH! LOL! WHAT?!? I had a field day to say the least! That convo was about 2 years ago, and till this day she is still single….And that is because…she is….a choosy lover.

According to the word of God, and everyone female I talk to pulls this one out of her sleeve…God said he would give me the desires of my heart….LOL….LOL! That one cracks me up. I will agree with you, but first lets put this in perspective. Being saved is being born again….being born again is becoming a new creature(2 corinthians 5:17). When we become a new creature we let go of OUR ways and pick up Christ ways. So once we pick up Christ ways, and adapt to his heart and way of thinking, he will give us the desires of our heart because we finally want what he wants….not what we want!

And in saying that Im sorry baby girl, Christ may not want you to have a dude that is 6’2! Just face it, It is not up to you! So as long has you are holding on to that, you may be single until you settle for less in a man that is not saved, or you change your way of thinking. Im not pointing fingers because it was shown to me first hand! Even after I got saved I swore I would never be with a woman that had more than 2 kids! That was my limit, until I was in love, and engaged to a woman that had 3! He showed me…lol. So till this day, I don’t tell God what I wont except. I know the woman he has for me will be 1 thing for sure…and that is saved! Because I know he’s not going to send me a woman who is unequally yoked. The previous example was just 1 of many conversations where woman seem to still be searching for the wrong thing in a mate, and is letting it determine who she will make herself available to, and baby girl as long as you thinking that way you are going to lose! And then have the nerve to be always talking about ain’t no good men or they all taken….naw you just aint taking the time to look passed appearance. And some woman make appearance such a big deal as if marriage is even for us! Thats right, imma blow your mind real quick…marriage is not even for our benefit. (all the women reading this:What? are you serious?) Yes ma! marriage is for the advancement of the Kingdom Agenda….not for the physical attractions of your lust…and I’m talking to myself on that 1, because there is nothing else I would love to pray for that the Lord would actually give me which is either Sanaa Lathan, or Vanessa Simmons….lol! But anyway Ladies please ask the Lord to grow you into maturing into how he is thinking, and not you! Because you holding on to being a choosy lover, is not going to sway the love he chooses for you.

Chev-Dev - Nissi