Wassup wit it? I got a quick question…when you gave your life to Christ (assuming you have) did you choose when he touched your heart? How about did you choose your path for you or choose what gifts you were given for the edification of the Body? Better yet are you going to choose the day that you meet the Lord? Did you choose anything about your salvation? How much power do you have to have to choose something about your salvation. As a believer aren’t we suppose to give up control of making our own decisions and allow the new characteristics of Christ and the guidance of the Holy Spirit to determine what Gods will for your life is? Or do we Trust that God created the universe some 13 Billion years ago (says scientist) create the heavens and earth, put earth in a realm close enough to the sun to be warm but not so close that we burn, put water, land, all creeping things and flying birds, creating Adam and Eve and gave them full dominion over everything, allowed us to be disconnected from him because of sin, came down in the form of man as Jesus because he knew our need for a savior, created a perfect after life for us after we completely delete satan, all of the miracles for you to not trust in him to find you a mate? Let me give you the short version of that question, you trust God for everything but a spouse? Im saying though, just keep it one-hunded..and I am speaking to the ladies right now. The ones I’m speaking on are on fire for God! Im seeing fruit everywhere! Ya’ll are loving on the Lord, trying your best to be obedient, and having full trust in him…EXCEPT when it comes to finding a mate! That didn’t even sound right did it? LOL! I know that’s because how it sounded wasn’t right. Ladies well let me rephrase that, some of the ladies I know seem that they are only interested in the same things in a man that the world is, and I have to tell you, that is the very reason that you are still single! And I’m not speaking as if I am some type of relationship guru, I’m just saying it’s obvious! I had a convo with a young lady in a social setting with about 25 of us. I would say 8 men, and the rest women, and you know what singles talk about when we get together…marriage…lol go figure. Anyway in the heat of the conversation she says “Im sure that all yall are great men of God, and are capable of leading a woman effectively, but I could never be with any of ya’ll cuz my mate will have to be 6’2”! HUH! LOL! WHAT?!? I had a field day to say the least! That convo was about 2 years ago, and till this day she is still single….And that is because…she is….a choosy lover.
According to the word of God, and everyone female I talk to pulls this one out of her sleeve…God said he would give me the desires of my heart….LOL….LOL! That one cracks me up. I will agree with you, but first lets put this in perspective. Being saved is being born again….being born again is becoming a new creature(2 corinthians 5:17). When we become a new creature we let go of OUR ways and pick up Christ ways. So once we pick up Christ ways, and adapt to his heart and way of thinking, he will give us the desires of our heart because we finally want what he wants….not what we want!
And in saying that Im sorry baby girl, Christ may not want you to have a dude that is 6’2! Just face it, It is not up to you! So as long has you are holding on to that, you may be single until you settle for less in a man that is not saved, or you change your way of thinking. Im not pointing fingers because it was shown to me first hand! Even after I got saved I swore I would never be with a woman that had more than 2 kids! That was my limit, until I was in love, and engaged to a woman that had 3! He showed me…lol. So till this day, I don’t tell God what I wont except. I know the woman he has for me will be 1 thing for sure…and that is saved! Because I know he’s not going to send me a woman who is unequally yoked. The previous example was just 1 of many conversations where woman seem to still be searching for the wrong thing in a mate, and is letting it determine who she will make herself available to, and baby girl as long as you thinking that way you are going to lose! And then have the nerve to be always talking about ain’t no good men or they all taken….naw you just aint taking the time to look passed appearance. And some woman make appearance such a big deal as if marriage is even for us! Thats right, imma blow your mind real quick…marriage is not even for our benefit. (all the women reading this:What? are you serious?) Yes ma! marriage is for the advancement of the Kingdom Agenda….not for the physical attractions of your lust…and I’m talking to myself on that 1, because there is nothing else I would love to pray for that the Lord would actually give me which is either Sanaa Lathan, or Vanessa Simmons….lol! But anyway Ladies please ask the Lord to grow you into maturing into how he is thinking, and not you! Because you holding on to being a choosy lover, is not going to sway the love he chooses for you.
Chev-Dev - Nissi