Praise God! I usually don’t do singles events at other churches, there is no specific reason I just don’t. But tonight I was invited to an event at another church by a very special young lady and if it was’nt for her asking me to go, I wouldn’t have. In fact satan think he slick, cuz when I was parking I got sleepy, hungry, and didnt want to go in at all! But I did and Im glad because we had a good time. It’s interesting how the word of God is taught to you at your home church by your Shepard(s) and you don’t want to trust anyones teaching except theirs, and then you go somewhere else and it is taught just as sound just in a different way! That is when you know the Holy Spirit is involved! And just from my experience that let’s me know that the single walk that I’m on right now is not one of feeling or emotion, but one that is ordered by God!
Tonight we talked about celebrating our singleness, and accepting it as a gift all while marketing yourself for marriage. And because of where I eat at, my Pastors teach on singleness alot, so when I was hearing the sermon, I was already seasoned in the direction the conversation was going, and I was anxious to here how it was going to be brought from another Pastor. Being single is a gift, it may not feel like a gift because the majority of who we or who I know is married, and we may feel pressure to marry, but it is truly a gift. And since marriage is also a gift you have to ask yourself, do you control who gives you gifts and what type of gifts they give? The answer is no, in fact if someone gave you a gift, and you said you didnt like it can you give me another, you probably just talked yourself out of that gift. Is that how we do the Lord when it comes to our gift of singleness. I dont know about yall, but even before hearing the sermon tonight, I havent been mad about my gift because like other gifts you really dont like, you will find how to appreciate it, and love that gift. So how can we appreciate the gift of being single you ask? Simple to be the best single possible according to the gift giver…The Lord! something my Pastor taught on 1 Sunday about being an effective single in the Kingdom Agenda was that the Lord is building his house with each congregation, and when you build a house, after the foundation is laid (which is Jesus) he uses SINGLE pieces of wood to start building. You start laying down SINGLE pieces of plywood for the floor….so forth and so on. So he is in a sense using singles to further the Kingdom Agenda. Singles have our place, just as those who are married have theirs in advancing the Kingdom Agenda. And what the sermon tonight was about was knowing that the Lord has us single for a reason and to embrace that….not only embrace that but celebrate it. We are to celebrate it in the spiritual by getting close to God, being still and listening to God so that he may direct our paths, and celebrate it in the physical by just enjoying ourselves! Because even thought I would love to be married now, there are alot of things that would change in my life, and not all of them are good. It would be some things that I would have to adjust to. Right now I do what I want, spend how and on what I want, talk to and hang out with who I want, go and come as I want, clean up when I want etc. I could actually leave town right now, and not call no one for the next 2 weeks, and come home and it be all good. And just living like that for as long as I have, to one day being married, and have to explain and ask, and consult, it would be a major change for me. Now dont get me wrong, the pay off of being united with the woman the Lord has for me is well worth it…but it would still be a process. Also to add to it, when you know what your calling on your life is, and you know your purpose, you cant just marry anyone! You have to understand that the Lord uses marriage to further and advance the Kingdom, so although we benefit from marriage, it’s primary function is to give glory to Christ through the ministry that the marriage is taking on. Let’s Go to creation 101 in Genesis when Adam was here with the Lord in the garden of Eden he say attend it, and eat from it (except the 1 tree). And as Adam attended to the garden it grew and grew until it was to large for Adam alone to attend. So he says I will make a helper suitable for you and that is when the Lord made all the beast of the earth, crawling creatures, and flying birds. He told Adam to name all of them, so he did. And when the Lord was done, he says there is still not a helpmate suitable, and thats when he put him to sleep and took his rib. And even when Eve came about she was with the Lord before Adam awoke. So for us men, we need to be mature enough to know what job the Lord has for us to do, and when we are working diligently to increase, and it gets to the point of needing help with the calling on our life, then he will provide our Eve. And for the single women, you have to know how to be with God without your Adam, so when the Lord wakes your Adam up and he sees you, you’ll know how to be the woman of God to him, and effectively support and be a suitable helper for him in what ever ministry the Lord placed on his life. So fellas we have to choose wisely! We have to choose according to what the Lord needs from us. And that is why as many times that I dont like being single, at the end of the day I am grateful because I want to please the Lord. And if the reason I am single is because he is increasing me…then I’m all for it. And with that being said…I see him working! I mean literally just today I heard some news that blew my mind about where the Lord has my ministry going, and that lets me know that my ministry is getting to the point of needing my helpmate…And I will say Lord, I’m ready for my Eve!
In all, It was great fellowshipping with others that I don’t normally kik it with, and just meeting new people. I appreciated the sermon tonight! Its like the food I ate tonight was a great addition to the full chorus meal that I get at home!